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On Finding Joy

A topic very close to my heart is joy.


This central belief informs all of the work I do with my clients and my family. No matter where you are in life, no matter what is swirling around us, ๐™ฌ๐™š ๐™–๐™ก๐™ก ๐™™๐™š๐™จ๐™ž๐™ง๐™š ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™–๐™˜๐™ฉ๐™ช๐™–๐™ก๐™ก๐™ฎ ๐™™๐™š๐™จ๐™š๐™ง๐™ซ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐™š๐™ญ๐™ฅ๐™š๐™ง๐™ž๐™š๐™ฃ๐™˜๐™š ๐™Ÿ๐™ค๐™ฎ.


If you are not having fun, if you are not being a little adventurous, I invite you to get curious about your day to day.


๐—๐—ผ๐˜† ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜๐—ต.

๐—๐—ผ๐˜† ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ.

๐—๐—ผ๐˜† ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ.



Focusing today on Joy in your relationship.


๐™…๐™ค๐™ฎ ๐™˜๐™–๐™ฃ ๐™—๐™š ๐™›๐™ง๐™ค๐™ข ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™จ๐™ข๐™–๐™ก๐™ก ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ๐™จโ€”like sharing a smile over coffee or your trip to the farmers market togetherโ€”all the way to the happiness of embarking on lifeโ€™s greatest adventures!


๐—ฆ๐—ผ ๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜„ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ฏ๐˜๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€? ๐—ง๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐˜† ๐—ถ๐˜€โ€ฆ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ.


๐™ƒ๐™š๐™ก๐™ฅ ๐™ฎ๐™ค๐™ช๐™ง ๐™ก๐™ค๐™ซ๐™š๐™™ ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™š๐™จ ๐™ค๐™—๐™ฉ๐™–๐™ž๐™ฃ ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š๐™ž๐™ง ๐™ž๐™™๐™š๐™–๐™ก ๐™จ๐™š๐™ก๐™› ๐™ฉ๐™ค๐™ค. Itโ€™s critical to do everything we can to believe in, support, and validate not only our spouseโ€™s values, goals, and dreams, but our childrenโ€™s as well. For example, Iโ€™m an extrovert and I married an introvert. He joins me on my love of travel, exploration and meeting new people. I join him in staying put, alone time and quiet walks with just the two of us.


๐™๐™จ๐™š ๐™ฉ๐™๐™š ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™ฌ๐™š๐™ง ๐™ค๐™› ๐™๐™ค๐™ช๐™˜๐™. A pat on the back, a squeeze of the hand, an arm around the shoulder. Such gestures are often quick and inconspicuous, but they are not inconsequential. Indeed, the science of touch suggests that this physical contact can improve and nurture your health (mentally, physically AND emotionally). ๐™„๐™ฉ ๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ง๐™š๐™ข๐™–๐™ง๐™ ๐™–๐™—๐™ก๐™ฎ ๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™™๐™š๐™ง๐™ซ๐™–๐™ก๐™ช๐™š๐™™.


Express admiration, appreciation and affection. One of the key conclusions of research in more joy filled relationships is that they are characterized by a ratio of positive to negative affect of 5 to 1. So- make raising your positive affect ratio a weekly goal. ๐˜พ๐™ค๐™ข๐™ข๐™ช๐™ฃ๐™ž๐™˜๐™–๐™ฉ๐™š ๐™œ๐™ง๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ฉ๐™ช๐™™๐™š, ๐™–๐™™๐™ข๐™ž๐™ง๐™–๐™ฉ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ ๐™–๐™ฃ๐™™ ๐™ฅ๐™ง๐™–๐™ž๐™จ๐™š.


๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ฒ๐—ณ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ฒ๐—ถ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜ ๐—ด๐—ผ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜€๐˜๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜†๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ป ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ?


What happens when you think of your marriage as another โ€œto-doโ€ vs. turning it into an energy source for you?


Loving you!

Lisa


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